& the harsher you are to asexual advocates, the less you are going to have. So don’t come whining when you scare all of them away.
wait wtf is this why are you victim blaming us
Are you fucking serious.
I’m so ready to walk out the advocacy door right now.
well go ahead if you are spewing that “hate breeds hate” uwu shit
We have every right to be mad at those that oppress us and we are under no obligation to be nice to them whether they are “allies” or not. So we’re supposed to be all nice to our oppressors for fear of scaring allies away? Sounds like bullshit to me
unless you meant something else, in which case, explain
I think a good point that could be made, is that a good “ally” would understand and accept vehemence on the side of the oppressed, regardless of who it’s aimed at, and wouldn’t blame them for their attitudes. Allies that don’t like how the oppressed are acting towards their oppressors and make comments about it, aren’t really great allies anyway.
And even if someone from an oppressed group says something that makes you personally feel like shit, An ally worth keeping will look at that and say “why is this making me feel this way?” And if it’s because they’re doing something hurtful, they’ll work to correct the behavior. If it’s not, and it’s not just because the ally in question has issues with insecurity, and it is just a straight up hurtful thing that Doesn’t make sense, they’re not going to lambast the entire community. They’ll respond like any mature human being and deal with it the same as if anyone said something rude and hurtful and unnecessary - talk to the person privately, or seek reassurance from a friend who understands the situation well enough to give it.